Yesterday, Facebook reminded me that it has been a whopping six years since I partnered with She Leads Africa and Uber at the #UberforHer event in Lagos, where I was invited to speak to female driver-partners and entrepreneurs as part of Uber’s global vision to economically empower one million women across the world by 2020.

This was one of my first major public speaking events. I recall that apart from the instant fear that crept in upon reading the invitation email, I had a few other reasons to turn down the invitation, one of which was that I was just starting a new job as a global customer experience manager and was still adjusting to the role. However, I accepted the invitation to speak despite my fears, busy schedule, and initial self-doubt because it was an opportunity for me to partner with a visionary technology startup to impact entrepreneurs—something I have been passionate about my whole career. Till this moment, I remember how attentive the women were as I spoke to them on “Slaying the Customer Service Game.”  The entire event was a success, and afterwards, I was able to network and even patronise a co-speaker- Blessing Manuel, by purchasing one of her well-tailored Ankara gowns.

Reflecting on that experience, here are five lessons I draw to help you manage your fears when presented with an opportunity that interests you.

1. Let Your Work Speak for You

Back then, I was offered this fantastic opportunity through a referral from a former colleague, Nkechi Osuji. She had worked closely with me in the past and witnessed my dedication and proficiency, making her confident in my ability to deliver. The lesson? Your work is your greatest advocate. Let it speak about your capabilities, even when you are not in the room.

2. Be Prepared to Seize the Moment

Despite juggling a new job and a whirlwind of responsibilities, I embraced the challenge because I was passionate about the topic I was to speak on. I already knew what the content of my slides would cover. But despite my knowledge of the subject matter, I took the time to practise what I was going to say and how. This made saying yes easy, and my enthusiasm while presenting undoubtedly resonated with the audience. When you take time out to prepare, the battle of self-doubt is already half won.

3. Say Yes and Show Up, Even When Fear Knocks

Imposter syndrome is a pesky companion. It makes us second-guess our abilities. It is tempting to say no, but the real magic happens when you say yes, even if fear is nipping at your heels. I said yes, and not only did I conquer my fears when I started speaking, but I also found myself featured in The Guardian News. So say yes to leading that presentation, attending that interview or accepting that new job function that will stretch you but eventually add to your skills, prepare, show up afraid like I did, and watch the magic unfold.

4. Document Your Journey Through Photos

Photographs are more than just pixels; they are a testament to your growth and achievements. I’ve always been a fan of capturing moments, a trait passed down from my dad. When doubts creep in, a glance at past photos always boosts my confidence and reminds me of how far I have come and the heights that I am yet to reach.

5. Be Mindful of Your Words and Opportunities

I’ve had a few professionals turn down my invitations in fear or suggest alternatives because they felt someone else could do the job better. I’ve also had instances where I’ve had to convince others to embrace new opportunities.  Never underestimate the power of your words, especially in public. Your abilities are an inspiration to others, and sometimes, opportunities only knock once. However, if you genuinely feel unprepared for a task, gracefully decline, but keep the door open for future collaborations.

Saying yes and facing your fears can have a lasting impact on both your personal and professional life. The next time an opportunity comes knocking, swing it wide open, face that fear and let success in.

Until next time,

Bukola Osuntuyi.

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